Introduction:
This is such a huge problem for men. One of the top 3 questions I get asked is, “Where should I meet women?”. In fact, one of my favorite questions to a potential client is “How do you encounter women?”
There are a multitude of reasons for such a problem to exist:
- Dating apps have become unreliable for many men.
- A limited social circle, with few women who in turn bring others.
- Lack of a local community.
- Work has taken away the time for major part of the week.
- Fleeting crowd – How often do we see the same person frequently (unless it’s in a workplace, gym).
- Too much competition on other online channels.
- Lack of spaces, which are designed to mingle and interact with women organically.
- Last and not the least; the trend of single mixers, run clubs, strangers meet-up, etc have not been able to maintain either quality or the gender ratio.
Now, it is what it is.. We can’t sit and complain. So what can be done?
Well, I can give you some ideas of social channels to mingle with women which may be universal.
But let me warn you, I feel those ideas may not suit everyone, or may not be helpful for some of you (because of the city you live in, or your lifestyle).
In the end, I have added “My Strong Advice”, as a long – lasting and permanent solution.
(One tip before we get to the ideas: Always, in very early stages of interacting a woman, avoid looking at her only from the lens of love, long-term relationship and marriage, unless its a matchmaking).
Here my universal ideas:
- Volunterring – NGO’s, Organising events (concerts, art, charity, beach clean-up, founders meetups, etc)
- Art festivals or fairs – They attract good ratio of women. The energy of these spaces also tend to be social with right balance.
- Workout or activity sessions like rock-climbing, pilates/barre, aerial yoga, sound bath yoga, and Zumba.
- Short-term executive Courses with tier one universities.
- Painting workshops, language classes, theater workshops, flims festivals/screening, audition venues.
- Baking classes or courses – Usually, these spaces attract far more women than men. If you travel to Europe, make sure you sign up for one. Even pasta or pizza making can be an option.
- Public events in private members clubs (Soho’s of the world)
- Wellness retreats – Subjective to organizers, type of wellness programs.
- Events organized by top make-up and beauty companies, athleisure brands like Alo, lululemon.
- Karaoke nights can also be considered.
- Wine tasting/making workshops.
- Matcha Cafes. Enjoy while it lasts. But very good.
- Organised travelling – Treks, group travelling. Little over-rated.
- Niche music festivals that runs for few days.
Sure, there may be more. Every city and country will have its own mix to add to the above list.
My personal favorites are volunteering for NGOs, short-term executive courses, workout sessions, few days long baking course (globally), and Art fairs.
In my limited understanding and experiences, the above environments have a good ratio of women (the ones that you may like to meet), and a light social energy allowing to mingle with them.
My strong advice.
My advice to men, no matter where you live, is to prepare yourself to naturally mingle, interact, and make an impression on women as you cross paths in daily life.
This could be in an office elevator, waiting for your car at the valet, sitting in a local café, commuting, strolling through your office complex, enjoying drinks with friends, attending university, traveling for work, or even shopping in a mall. The most genuine opportunities often come from everyday moments—because nothing is more organic than real life itself.
The important thing that you must realize, that you need to be patient and not come across as someone who is in hurry.
A simple “Hi” , and a smile on day 1 can be good enough. It can be while you enter the elevator, or while you both are working out in the gym.
Conclusion:
The challenge most men face today is not having natural access to women. On top of that, the rise of commercialized platforms like dating apps, matchmaking services, singles mixers, and so on, has diluted both the quality and the balance of interactions, making things even harder. This is why finding niche spaces and unique ways to meet women has become increasingly important. Still, the most powerful approach is to equip yourself to confidently engage with women as you naturally cross paths in everyday life.