RESEARCH SAYS THAT AMONG MANY FACTORS THAT MAKES A MAN ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN IS HIS ABILITY TO PROVIDE FUTURE RESOURCES. (ESPECIALLY FOR LONG TERM MATING)
AND BEING QUITE GOOD LOOKING AND VISUALLY APPEALING HELPS IN SHORT TERM MATING..
NATURALLY COMBINATION OF ABILITY TO PROVIDE FUTURE RESOURCES AND VISUAL APPEAL IS THE KILLER FACTOR.
ABSOLUTE INTELLIGENCE (ALSO INCLUDES A SENSE OF MATURITY) AND KINDNESS (INCLUDES LOYALTY) ARE THOSE OTHER FACTORS, RESEARCH ALLUDES TO.
THE THING ABOUT DATING APPS IS THAT THE WAY IT IS DESIGNED AND STRUCTURED, ONLY A RARE FACTORS LIKE ABILITY TO PROVIDE
FUTURE RESOURCES AND BEING VISUALLY APPEALING ARE VISIBLE AND SIGNALED, RESULTING INTO VERY VERY FEW MEN (LESS THAN 10 PERCENT) GETTING REAL ACCESS TO MAXIMUM WOMEN. WHILE OTHER FACTORS CAN NOT BE EASILY SIGNALED THROUGH THE APPS. YES, ONE MAY ARGUE THAT THROUGH THE DATING APP PROFILE, A PERSON CAN SIGNALED INTELLIGENCE. BUT FOR A WOMAN TO REACH TO THE STAGE OF READING BIO, PROMPTS, ETC, THE VISUAL APPEAL, AND BEING RESOURCEFUL BOX SHOULD BE TICK FIRST.
(REAL ACCESS MEANS ACTUALLY MEETING WOMEN THROUGH APPS).
EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE AND SOCIETY HAS SOME IMBALANCE. BUT THE IMBALANCE OF DATING APPS IS QUITE HIGH.
THE SIDE-EFFECTS OF THIS IS THAT IT LEAVES MAJORITY OF MEN DISGRUNTLED AND REINFORCES TO WOMEN THAT MEN ARE DISLOYAL.
LET ME EXPLAIN HOW.
FIRSTLY, LET ME SPEAK ABOUT MEN WHO GET THE MAXIMUM ACCESS THROUGH DATING APPS.
THESE MEN RARELY STICK TO A WOMAN. THERE IS PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT TO SEEING SOMEONE ON A MOBILE SCREEN AND SELECTING A PERSON BASED ON A VISUAL APPEAL THROUGH A SCREEN. THERE IS A SUBCONSCIOUS SENSE OF INTERCHANGEABILITY.
THIS LEADS TO WOMEN CHASING ONE MAN WHO IS SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN TOO, MAKING WOMEN BREAK THEIR OWN SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-RESPECT AND BREDDING INSECURITY AMONG THEMSELVES.
IT ALSO ADDS TO THE NARRATIVE THAT MEN ARE SEXUAL CHEATERS.
WHILE FOR MEN WHO DONT GET THE KIND OF ACCESS WITH WOMEN THAT 10 PERCENT MEN GET; FEEL ANGRY, DISSAPPOINTED, LOSE FOCUS AND BECOME UNKIND TOWARDS THE WORLD IN GENERAL, ESPECIALLY WOMEN.
THE WORST PART FOR MAJORITY OF MEN IS THAT DATING APP STILL HOLDS THEM BY GIVING THEM BITS AND PIECES, BUT NOTHING CONCRETE AND WORKABLE COMES OUT OF IT.
WHAT ABOUT THE MEN WHO GET THE ACCESS?
THEY ENJOY IT FOR A WHILE. BUT THEN THEY GET HABITUATED TO VIRTUAL MODE OF MEETING WOMEN, WHICH HANDICAPS THEM TO MEET HIGH QUALITY, GREAT WOMEN WHO ARE NOT ON THE APP. AND THERE ARE MANY MANY GREAT AND GORGEOUS WOMEN NOT ON APPS.
I HAVE HAD CLIENTS WITH THIS EXACT PROBLEM.
AND THE MATHEMATICS OF DATING APPS IS TERRIBLE FOR MEN. IT’S 60 TO 70 PERCENT MEN AND 30-40 PERCENT WOMEN.. (INDIAN DATA)
TO END THIS I WANT TO EXPRESS THAT MAY SOUND CRUDE, BUT FOR ME PERSONALLY DATING APPS HAVE NEVER RESONATED WITH MY SOUL. I TELL YOU WHY.
IN 2012, WHILE ME AND MY FRIENDS WERE VACATIONING IN BANGKOK, WE ENDED UP IN AN ORGANISED BROTHEL TYPE PLACE.
THE ARRANGEMENT OF THE PLACE WAS SUCH THAT THERE WERE 20 OR SO WOMEN SEATED IN A GLASS COMPARTMENT OF A BIG HALL.
SO A CUSTOMER WOULD COME IN THE HALL AND LOOK AT THE ALL WOMEN SEATED BEHIND THE GLASS TO GET HIS PICK.
I REMEMBER FEELING SICK IN MY STOMACH AT THIS WHOLE PROCESS.
I COULD NEVER GET ON THE DATING APP BECAUSE IT BROUGHT ME BACK THE MEMORY OF THAT SICK FEELING. THE CONCEPT OF DATING APPS OF LOOKING AT MULTIPLE WOMEN THROUGH THE GLASS SCREEN AND SELECT SOMEONE REIGNITED THE MOMENT IN BANGKOK.
BUT THAT’S FOR ME.