What I’ve Learned Coaching Indian Men Across Ages: Surprising Patterns in Male Growth and Dating

Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of coaching men from all walks of life and across various age groups. Each age bracket brings its own mindset, challenges, and energy to the process of learning about women, attraction, and self-expression. Here’s what I’ve consistently observed about men—and clients—within different age groups:

Ages 23 to 27 – The Curious but Conflicted Explorer

Men in this age group take a while to settle into the process. Their perception of reality is largely borrowed from their surroundings—friends, social media, and pop culture. Their expectations from women and relationships are often misaligned, leading to confusion. However, they bring with them a genuine curiosity and enthusiasm. They’re excited by the idea of growth and getting better with women, but often drift in and out of the journey as they’re also trying to stabilize their careers and identity.

Ages 27 to 34 – The Overburdened Seeker.

This is the largest chunk of my clientele—and emotionally, the toughest group to work with. Many in this bracket have some experience with women, but their lives are weighed down by multiple pressures: career ambitions peaking, family expectations, peer comparisons, and the ticking clock of marriage. There’s a heavy energy around them—you can feel it. They take personal growth seriously—too seriously at times. And that seriousness often gets in the way of lightness and play, which are essential to becoming better with women. Learning how to relax and not overanalyze is often their biggest hurdle.

Ages 35 to 39 – The Balanced Adapter.

This group is more diverse. Some are still under similar pressures as the previous bracket, while others have found emotional and mental grounding. Many have traveled, been in relationships, or even experienced marriage. They bring a lighter energy and are more open to adapting. With fewer insecurities and more headspace, they often approach this journey with flexibility and maturity—making them easier to work with.

Ages 40 and Above – The Liberated Learner.

This is my favorite group to coach. Their careers are usually stable, and they’ve either overcome or completely let go of societal pressures. They don’t take themselves too seriously—which is a blessing in this work. They grasp the core of what I teach with surprising ease, and they often produce the fastest results. They travel, invest in themselves, dress well, and most importantly, bring a level of maturity that makes the journey both fun and fruitful.

Final Thoughts
Growth isn’t defined by age, but age certainly adds context. Every bracket brings its own flavor, its own internal world. But across all ages, the shift that matters most is from pressure to play, from confusion to clarity, from performance to presence.