Social Poverty, it’s curse and how to get out of it..

I have been a dating coach in India for 8 years now. I have lost count of number of men I have coached over these years. I have had fortunate opportunities to coach men of all age groups (17 -50) and across different socio-economic hierarchies with diverse upbringing. However, my maximum coaching involved men who … Read more Social Poverty, it’s curse and how to get out of it..

What I learned about men over the years as a dating coach?

Let me begin with a caveat. My views are limited to experiences I had with men whom I got to interact with and observed as a coach. Of course, there are subset of men who live a different life, have different mindset, story, experiences and never thought of reaching out to people like me. So … Read more What I learned about men over the years as a dating coach?

Why current generation lacks Social-Courting-Dating skills.

Let’s go back to older days, maybe half a century back. What were the avenues for a man and woman to meet, mingle and get together? In western world, some would say churches, weddings, ball room parties, neighborhood bar, community, common friends, offices, colleges and universities. In eastern world it would be roughly the same … Read more Why current generation lacks Social-Courting-Dating skills.

The Dimensions of Instinct and Intellect.

We have a past, present and future. Instinct is what belongs to our animal past. It is very old, solid; it is the inheritance of million of years. While intellect is human, belonging to our present. We mostly function through our intellect. All our sciences, all our businesses, all our professions are based on our … Read more The Dimensions of Instinct and Intellect.

Eyes: It’s role in mating.

There is an old saying about Eyes: A human eyes have a unique capacity to look both inwards and outwards, One can close his eyes in meditation and look inwards, while with open eyes he can see outwards. Of all the five senses, sight is the most important in courtship-mating-romance-relationships dynamics. Usually for both men … Read more Eyes: It’s role in mating.

Plain Speaking Method..

What’s the usual way guys approach and mingle with girls in initial moments? Of course, each individual has his own style, but barring 1 percent all other guys use hoops. Hoops are close to unnecessary conversational frames. In essence hoops are used as a social lubricant to avoid overwhelming-ness of direct point. For example a … Read more Plain Speaking Method..

Man Thrusts, Woman Receives

Source: A Note to Men, Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/p/CeHCiuyjWU2/ A man’s primary sexual tool is designed to thrust, while woman’s sexual organ is designed to receive the thrust. However, thrusting and receiving in humans is not limited to physicality like in animals, it extends in Spirit. We humans carry an internal story in all our acts, including … Read more Man Thrusts, Woman Receives

Technology has changed this about relationships forever…

A click or a tap can take us to different parts of the world, helps us become aware of different cultures, narratives, philosophy, people and hence different possibilities of life. Technology has revolutionized the way we live and want to live our life. It has redefined our motivations. One of the strong motivations that technology … Read more Technology has changed this about relationships forever…

An Incident That Flipped My Narrative.

This Incident took place almost 6 years back. At that time, I was mostly in my head trying to talk my way in with women. The concept of conversation was the only dimension I was aware of. However until one fine afternoon, the narrative that ‘conversational skills is all that matters’ flipped on its head … Read more An Incident That Flipped My Narrative.

Conversations, an over-rated tool to attract women.

I am not revealing a secret by telling you that one of most common questions I am asked as a Dating Coach is “How to strike a conversation with a new girl?” or something along that lines. The underpinning assumption among most men is that, the conversation is the most powerful tool to attract a … Read more Conversations, an over-rated tool to attract women.

How do I handle or respond to a remark on my physical flaw?

I had clients expressing their deep concerns regarding their short height, physical disability, or some physical flaw which cannot be altered favorably. There is a always a sense of limitation in the back of their mind because of their physical impairment or short height. And this limitation holds them back to express themselves confidently around … Read more How do I handle or respond to a remark on my physical flaw?

How ‘approaching’ woman has always worked and still works..

The following image is an excerpt from a book “The Definitive Guide to Body Language” published in the year 2004, just about the same time as “The Game”. It is an interesting irony you will realised, if you have read “The Game”. Before you read further, please read the above excerpt. Women invite, Men approach. … Read more How ‘approaching’ woman has always worked and still works..

How to position one-self to meet girls?

If you want to master the game of meeting women offline then you must learn the art of positioning yourself to maximize your interactions with the women in the particular social venue. As I evolved in my ways to meet women randomly, I noticed a natural shift in my positioning in any venue. For instance … Read more How to position one-self to meet girls?

Flow of male-female arousal process

At first look, the flowchart may appear complex to process it, so hold it tight. As you read down, concepts will get clearer. Let me begin by defining what primitive and social represents in the above flow chart. “Primitive” means un-conditioned intellect of our sexual nature; while “Social” means conditioned, diluted by our surroundings and … Read more Flow of male-female arousal process

What it takes to developed an uninhibited masculine expression?

In my view, one of the highest purpose of a man is to inhabit, what I call an “Uninhibited Masculine Expression”. Most men who call me as a coach, knowingly or unknowingly seek to unlock their expression as a man in the land of women.

Getting into so called friend-zone or being received by women anything but as their masculine opposite sex, is the by product of lack of uninhibited masculine expression.

Below is the flow chart that I have developed to simplify what it takes to unlock and refined an uninhibited masculine expression.

How advent of texting has changed the way men show up…

In the movie nine and half weeks, Mickey Rourke (male actor) sends a note to Kim Bassinger (female note) with a bouquet of flowers, inviting her on a date with him. It’s 1980’s then. As I watched the particular scene, I wonder when was the last time, a guy must have invited a girl on … Read more How advent of texting has changed the way men show up…

What can we learn from Mathew McConaughey?

Mathew McConaughey in an interview detailed the way he approached a woman, who went on to marry him. The thing that struck me the most was that he could instantly recognized the impact the woman had on him and he followed through it. His approach was masculine and graceful (I am going by his narration). … Read more What can we learn from Mathew McConaughey?